Came across this free e-book by Tim Challies today called Sexual Detox (HT to Mikey). There is one for single and one for married guys.I highly recommend it and just finished reading it. Only took me about an hour to read.
It had some pretty good things to say about sex and it's purposes and our need to focus on God and his plan and purposes for sex. As someone who sadly is coming into my upcoming marriage with sexual baggage I found it both a challenging and encouraging read. I'm thankful for God's grace to us and I pray that He will help my past not mess up my future too much!
I think the last paragraph sums up the book nicely:
The fact is, God does not give young men free passes when it comes to sin; he does not allow you to run wild for a time and just “get away with it.” Sin carries with it consequences whether you sin at eighteen or eighty. Turn from your sin today. Pursue freedom. Pursue Christ.
One thing really caught my eye when reading this book though, It relates to the quote below. Especially if you are married I'd like to know your thoughts! It seems quite a radical way of thinking about sex to me!
Even if you have no desire to have sex, have sex for your spouse’s sake. Even if neither you nor your spouse have a desire to have sex, have sex for God’s sake out of obedience to him.Discuss...
Not wanting to have sex when you are married and are physically capable is a mental illness that requires counselling.
ReplyDeleteSex is a daily requirement for our survival and general health and wellbeing. Just like food, water, air, sleep, love, hygiene, mental stimulation, exercise and communion with God.
Hey Anonymous
ReplyDeleteI believe you are the same Anonymous that commented over on my dating talk... Anyway as I will tell you there, I do not like people making comments and not owning it with their name. So when you make statements, please have the guts to own them.
Anyway. Is it not possible that not wanting to have sex could be the result of any number of issues that aren't mental? I think it's a bit of jump to say a lack of desire equals mental illness. That's probably offensive to both the mentally ill and those with low sex drives. As I understand it, sex drive is related to hormones and other physical things, so it might be more a physical illness, if it is an illness? It's certainly sinful to not have sex frequently with your marriage partner.
As to your second comment. That is just plain stupidity. Humans don't need to have sex to survive. By that I mean, from birth to live from day to day people do not need sex. Also that but I happen to know unmarried Christian people who have never had sex (and are 40 or 50 years old). They are still going strong. They have of course, eaten, drunk water, breathed and slept all that time. My feeling is that your statements may mean you are in danger of idolising the great gift of sex, rather than the giver of the gift.
Those old sexless friends of yours ever masturbated? Damn right they have. Sex is a need.
ReplyDeleteStill disagree that, apart from continuation of the species, sex is a need. Rather it is a gift from God to be enjoyed regularly in a marriage relationship
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